Thursday, April 26, 2012

It's Just Life....

So, I'm 53 years old.  At that age, one would think that most of the mysteries in one's life would have been solved.

Not so, apparently.

At a minimum, religious beliefs, one's beliefs of the likelihood of a life hereafter, the presence or lack of a creator, basic human nature and predictable actions (and reactions), favorite and disagreeable foods, favorite pastimes, and the person with whom one would like to spend the rest of one's life, should have all been answered.

What has become obvious, at least for me, is that some of life's "givens", aren't....

A biggy, is relationships. Lately, I'm reminded that the relationships I've had which  have turned out to be the important ones, are the old ones.  Friends I've known a long time, that generally have been in my past.  Old friends from high school and college, and relationships that began in optometry school.  Specific friends that maybe aren't kept up with on a daily, or even yearly, basis.  But, those are the same no matter how long between visits.  Those are the dependable ones.

Surprisingly, and possibly due to an over abundance of naivete and optimism, I continue to be surprised.

The dissolution of relationships provides time and energy for new ones.  But, as it turns out, the new ones are best kept to the old ones.  Those that are trusted, those with some sort of history.  Turns out, they are pretty terrific.  And, dependable.....